DMX512 uses a 5 pin XLR... those aren't as cheap as the much more common 3 pin. (but they are still pretty inexpensive.. but more than a couple holes for soldering wires<grin>)
yeah, the opto provides the isolation, but doesn't do the RS422 levels, and what I was really looking for is something where someone has done the basic design and sells a little board with the isolation, the balanced receiver and transmitter, the isolated power supply, and all the rest.